How to quickly over come stupid phobias? Overcome shyness, and make friends?any expert advise?

Quick review about me. I have been diagnosed with OCD, i was picked on growing up all the time, never had a friend just a few good acquaintances. i have had a fear of driving but i could drive to some extent, then i got rear ended by an idiot on her cell phone not paying attention, and now i cant even drive more than a mile from my home before i get really scared. also, im really shy and i need a friend or god willing maybe a gf in my introverted life, and i tried joining clubs to meet people but i have not received a phone call or a email back about my request. So, how can i overcome my fear of driving quick? and how am i suppose to make friends? Ive given up on fixing my OCD cus once i get rid of one habit two more just take its place. any advise on the car fear and how to make friends?